A Gentleman is Not Sexist

On opening the door for a lady 

Misogynist: “I will open this door for you because you are female, and your limbs are frail, and you haven’t built enough muscle to counteract the resistance of the door.” 

Gentleman: “I’m opening the door for you because I’m a respectable man. As it turns out, I open the door for everyone.” 

On paying for dinner on the first date 

Misogynist: “I’m paying for dinner because I expect something in return…
and it starts with the letter ‘S’.” 

Gentleman: “I’m paying for dinner because it’s courtesy to pay for dinner anytime I invite a guest to join me. This is also why I’m successful in business.” 

On giving her his jacket when it’s cold 

Misogynist: “I’ll give her my jacket because she forgot to bring one. Always forgetful. Typical of a woman.” 

Gentleman: “She’s cold so I will give her my jacket to wear. It’s the polite thing to do.” 

On helping put her luggage in an overhead bin 

Misogynist: “She’s a woman and doesn’t understand men like to pick things up and put things down.”  

Gentleman: “I will ask her if she would like my help. If she doesn’t want it, I’m not offended.” 

On waiting to sit after she sits 

Misogynist: “Why would I wait? Woman, bring me my food!” 

Gentleman: “As a host, I wait until any guest has been seated before I sit. It’s common etiquette.” 

On walking on the outside of the sidewalk (closest to street) 

Misogynist: “I walk closest to the street so I can check out other women driving by.” 

Gentleman: “I walk closest to the street to protect her from traffic and splashing puddles, and according to feminists, ‘There is nothing sexist about cherishing or protecting another person.’” 


With the right attitude behind gentlemanly actions, not one is slightly sexist. It would do well for both men and many feminist extremists to research and understand what attitudes are sexist and what are not before tossing around terminology. Benevolent sexism is an attitude, not an action.